Being the parent of a teenager, or a pre-teen, is a terrifying thing these days isn’t it? Teenagers can be extremely challenging. Do you feel as if life has changed so much since you were a teen that you have no idea how to speak to or deal with your teenagers?
Do you feel your pre-teen is growing up far too quickly and you’re out of your depth? Are your children younger and you’re dreading the teenage years? You’re not alone! Many parents dread adolescence and find it hard to adapt when their child starts to become a teen. When your child transforms into a teenager you can very quickly feel a failure and that you’re a terrible parent.
The teen years throw up all sorts of challenges and we probably can’t avoid all of them. But what I can help you with is feeling confident in the way you are a parent.
“I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for all the help that you gave me at the beginning of my journey. You pointed me in the right direction and helped me to believe in myself again. You showed me that there are people who care and want to help you which was something I really needed.” CJ, Larkfield
Parents tell me they worry about:
- The wrong group of friends
- Social Media
- Media images and eating disorders
- Pressure to get good grades and go to Uni
- Anxiety & Depression
And to make it worse they tell me they don’t know how to talk about them to their teenagers. They tell me that when they try, they either get objection and argument, or complete silence. Then they feel guilty and useless because they’ve got it wrong – again!
Do it the Easy Way
I’m here to reassure you that it doesn’t have to be this way. There is an alternative. I am a parent so I know exactly what you’re going through and how you can create the kind of family life you expected when you had your first baby.
I can help you understand why the traditional styles of parenting just don’t work anymore and how you can do it differently whist still:
- Sticking to your principles & creating boundaries
- Being yourself
- Being the parent
It doesn’t always have to be about confrontation and argument with your teenagers. In fact you have probably found out that that approach often doesn’t work at all. Often your teenager will be feeling as scared and vulnerable as you. They belong to an age group that’s all about pushing the boundaries, rebelling, being an adult and keeping up appearances. In some ways they are grown up but in others they need our support and firm guidance along with our trust that they can make decisions and do the right thing. It’s your job to provide the boundaries and support they need to develop into a responsible and healthy adult.
The best way you can support your teenager is
- to be able to listen to them without judgement and automatic answers
- help them to explore possibilities whilst still provding bundaries
- support them in making a reasonable decision
That might seem like the impossible to you if the style of parenting you have learnt is about you making all the decisions and telling your teenager what to do and not do. The thing is, that’s how most of us have been parented so how would we know any other way?
A Different Approach
I have a different approach to parenting that I can teach you that will give you all the skills you need to:
- be firm with your teenagers whilst supporting change
- reduce confrontation and resolve conflict
- create a positive relationship
So, if you know you need to do something different before your teenager really needs you pop over to my “Work With Me” page to find the way that suits you best.
“I like the relaxed approach that Vicki has. The teaching methods she uses are fun and engaging. My daughter loves her time with Vicki and always looks forward to the next visit!
I would definitely recommend Vicki to other parents.“
SD West Wickham